lies, lies, they're all lies

thanks to elixer, there is no more moderating of comments. Ya, short lived, i know, but i said it might be.
so forget about the previous post and just go on with your normal daily blog reading and commenting like nothing was ever said on the subject. For those that have no idea what I'm talking about you can check out the previous post, or if you don't care still check out the previous post, or at least the last bit, cause that's just me bragging about a new personal best mile time.

I moderated walter's comment and i said, "publish" but, I don't see it, cause something dumb about the moderate comment thing is that it only shows you the person's comment, not what post they commented on. sorry walter, i can't figure out where you posted or what you said. i think you wanted to hang out, and i am down with that. perhaps i'll call you on the phone, since i'm also down with the old fashioned way of communicating.

ya. moderating comments has no real benefit, does it?

only to inform

just so everyone knows...

i've switched my blog comments to the kind that doesn't instantly publish cause people are commenting on previous posts and I don't know it and this is the only way I can figure out to keep track when someone comments on a post and instead of switching to wordpress to blog I'm doing this "moderating" thing. Don't worry if your comment doesn't show up automatically, it will show up. I may forgo this soon, but for now, this is what's what.

and so, please don't stop commenting, in fact, comment more cause I love the conversations that evolve.

and also.
*update on my best run ever, today I ran 2.55 miles and my pace was a consistent - 11:47, thanks Bella!

In response....

Comment Response to Liar, liar pants on fire:

summer - thanks, I'm glad we're talking about it too. I also witnessed it up close and it's hard no matter what the outcome, but there are numerous outcomes and i need to be fair to them all. I do believe marriage can survive an affair and your sister-in-law and brother are a brave example of this.

M - as always, I won't "comment" I'll post another blog.

Flop - lame. comment on mine next time. geez.

Beth - I'd love to hear your perspective on the topic. My parents are divorced also and there's no way I'd agree with the "divorce is not an option" thing. When are you coming back to us?!?!

BellaGirl - no need to ask for forgiveness, rambling is what blogging is all about!

Forgiveness is such a big part of the bigger topic, no doubt. Every marriage is unique, as is every sin. There fore, I do believe that this can not be cut a dry, and that is why we discuss, we dialogue. And, God forbid, any one of us ever found themselves in this situation, we'd know there were friends out there that would stand by our side, share thoughts and prayers and know that what we're going through is rough.

Anonymous - I'm not assuming an affair is just sex. I just think that's the most devastating and the hardest to talk about, because as Bella said, we've probably all been affected by one kind or another.

I would still love my husband if he told me he'd had an affair, but for me, staying in the marriage would depend on the details of the story. (Elixer says it well in her next post.)

I can tell you that just having a child would not make me stay in a marriage hands down. Kids know when their parents hate each other. Personally, I was never in a happier home than after my parent's divorce.

The for real response post is coming up next.